“Success is not the key of happiness; happiness is the key to the success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful – Albert Schweitzer”
True, isn’t it?
Take a pause for a minute and then think about a moment when you felt happy in what you did. The secret of being successful in life is stay happy and accept where you are in life, and then making the most out of it every day.
According to Dale Carnegie, Success is getting what you want but happiness is wanting what you get. It is recommended to not let success determine your happiness but do the vice-a-versa.
Many people would try to measure happiness and would also look at their bank accounts and wallets if they are happy. However, happiness is something that can never be measured.
So, what does “Success” mean anyway?
But, what exactly is success and how can it be defined? Also, what does it mean to be successful in life? According to Wikipedia, success may refer to attainment of higher status or an achievement of completing a goal. Being successful in life could mean different things to different people like for some it would mean achievement of desired vision and planned goals while for others, it would mean a getting a social status in the society.
For most of the people, success means to have a nice house and a car, and lot of money in your bank account. But, the truth is that there is no “one fits all” definition of success anyways. Thus, it is crucial that you ascertain your own definition of success else you will end up chasing a superficial definition of success.
As Bessie Anderson Stanley puts it, “He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has left the world better than he found it, whose life was an inspiration.”
So, does success give you happiness?
And, the answer is a big “No”. Then, what is a secret of happiness? Well, the real secret of happiness is to let go and get on with your life. There are times when you keep dwelling on to the past as there are a lot of events that happen in one’s life. These events can be both happy and sad from someone who got married to someone who lost a job and so on.
However, we need to let go of those events as quickly as possible in order to move on in our life. A human being who is truly happy from inside is a successful person on this earth. Personally, for me, I haven’t found anyone like this and all the people who have reached the “heights” of success are pretty miserable.
For example, the following formula for success and happiness that is guaranteed to fail: “When I have ___________________, I’ll be happy” (fill in those blanks with your own goal like “When I have a million dollars in my bank account, I’ll be happy”.
It is bound to fail as one doesn’t necessarily lead to other. There are many people around us who put a lot of focus on wealth, status, and fame to be successful in life but fail to realize that these three aspects may lead then to be unhappy and unsatisfied, and without a sense of having a meaning in life. Thus, it is very important for one to possess happiness, purpose, fulfillment, wisdom, and impact along with the other above three aspects if you want to be successful in life. Just by having fame, status, and wealth may create an imbalance in life and will leave you to be unhappy and sad,
According to Bruce Lee, Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.